Changeable: How Collaborative Problem Solving Changes Lives at Home, at School, and at Work, Hardcover/J. Stuart Ablon

A proven, powerful way to make meaningful changes in behavior -- at home, at work, in others, and in ourselves ``Why won't you change?`` It's the battle cry of anyone who's ever tried to help a troubled teen, an undisciplined colleague, a stubborn spouse...and anyone who's ever tried to curb bad habits and behavior in him or herself. Why is it so hard to change unwanted behavior? This paradigm-shifting book presents an evidence-based approach that actually works. Rather than judging, blaming, harsher punishment, or a call for more willpower, a more effective response to problem behavior is recognizing there's a lack of skill, not a lack of will. Based on psychologist Stuart Ablon's more than twenty-five years of clinical work with some of the most challenging populations (juvenile offenders, convicted criminals, and other institutionalized individuals) as well as training teachers, police officers, and other professionals, C hangeable presents a new way of thinking about solving our most vexing behavioral problems--and practical advice to put the ideas into practice. Forget tough love, zero tolerance, and other outdated ways to try to eliminate bad behavior. Instead, look for what's missing--the ability to tolerate frustration and change, for example--and work together to find a solution that will actually stick.